When you are pregnant with your first baby, there is no way that you can know what labour is going to feel like. Many women worry about how painful their labour will be and how they will cope with that pain. Nobody can describe a contraction to you – although some will probably try! If you’re expecting your second or later baby, your concern may come from having a previous difficult labour.

Remember, every pregnancy and birth is different.

• If this is your first baby, find out as much as you can about labour. Talk to your doctor or midwife and ask questions about labour and delivery.
• It can also help to talk to friends who have recently had a baby.
• Antenatal classes are a great way to learn more about labour and to talk about your concerns with other pregnant women (and often, their partners).
• If the classes are held at the hospital where you will have your baby, you will also be able to look around the labour wards and get a feeling for the way things happen. This can help to relieve many of your fears.
• Ask your care provider where you can go for antenatal classes.
• Share your fears or concerns with your partner or support person – especially if he or she is going to be with you during labour. They may also be worried and it can help to share your feelings and work out some coping strategies together.